01 November 2005 @ 04:58 pm
HITORI Ja nai. (I'm not alone, ok?)  
I am getting really sick of people saying that I don't have a life. I'm getting so fed up that I want to run my head into a wall.
So what if I actually take time to study. So what if I'm an anime fan. So what if I don't have a boyfriend. Does that make me a mutation of some sort? No.

This guy on my bus, B-san, is always asking me "what do you do that is soooo important? Why is it 'interesting'? What's so great about those Asian people?" Well for one thing, they at least have respect. >/

Kabe mentioned this during Government. She said that it was a really rather blunt and rude thing to say to someone. She thought they were joking, but they repeated it like, 3 times, dead serious. And T-san said today that I'm plain. Well, I asked them to elaborate what "plain" meant. Apparently, it means that I am a sterotypical Asian. No social skills, a bookworm. No Boyfriend, No interests outside of school and uninteresting as heck. I never take risks, I'm going to end up alone and unloved. I'll just go home alone everyday afterwork in the future. and stare at a TV/computer screen. Closet and forever nerd (used in a bad sense)

OH WTF. JUST BECAUSE A PERSON HAS A BOY/GIRLFRIEND DOES NOT MAKE THEM MORE SPECIAL THEN ANYONE ELSE. IT DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALL-WISE IN THE MATTERS OF THE WORLD. OH NO! I DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND. DOES THAT MEAN I AM CONDEMMED FOREVER? DOES THAT MEAN EVERYONE WILL SHY AWAY FROM ME LIKE I HAVE A PLAGUE? DOES IT MEAN THAT I AM SOCIAL-SKILLED ILLITERATE? >/ OH NO! I DON'T ACT LIKE A NORMAL TEENAGER. DOES IT MAKE ME A FREAK OF NATURE?

I am so sick of people regarding someone else's lifestyle as 'unimportant' or 'sad'. What someone does with their life should be their own business (unless they are involved in something illegal or whatnot.) It's nice to have a bf/gf, but that really isn't at the top of my to-do list. I can feel loved and accepted by my friends and family thank-you-very-much. They say they are changing someone for the better, but is really better? Is better used by their standards or by a universal standard? Or are they really changing the person so that their life will resemble theirs in a certain way? And really, if I can already approach someone, does it mean that I somehow forget how to do it in the future? :/ O

but what was that term? Hitori Ja Nai (I'm not Alone, and GASP! being my sterotypical asian self!! Oh Noezes!)

Edit:I've calmed down, a lot, I got away from the computer where the source of angerness bubbled out. *hugs and chus everyone*

ごめん ね sorry to T-san (they read this) it's just been a horrible month where it seems like everything/everyone has had a grudge against me, and I just snapped earlier, and made a bunch of stupid assumptions. And I pretty much took out my frustrations out on you. わああ! ごめんなさい!! But really, stereotypes really do suck, and I never do know when or where you were joking. You seemed quite serious when you said it.
PS. I have found out how to write in Japanese/chinese on our computer. Finally, Is stupid. ><;;;
えちぜん リョマ: まだまだ だね。>>;;;;
Quiet Ryoma.
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[identity profile] petapepy.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 01:58 am (UTC)
WTF?!!!! ~_________________________~ I'm far from the bookworm, although I am a homebody and like to do things at home. I'm 25 and yet had never had a boyfriend, but heaps of guy friends. Although I know what you mean as I get a lot of "why aren't you married yet" comments =o=;;;; There is no big deal with having girl or boyfriends or getting married. Frankly I like my freedom ^^.

It's wrong to classify people into groups because they like certain things. I'm sorry but that is discrimination. *sporks them*

*huggles* Don't let small minded morons get to you sweetie. *huggles* You do what's right for you and do what you want to do. Don't worry about anyone else because this is your life your living ^^.
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[identity profile] baranoneko.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 02:16 am (UTC)
I will never understand the societal pressure to date excessively during the teenage years. As if we all don't have enough emotional problems without going through the trauma of the dating scene.
As someone much in the same boat as you are (aka the "bookworm" who hasn't had a date in...well, let's not talk about me...), I feel your pain. You're not a "freak," you're just taking the time to enjoy your freedom and focus on things that are important to you. Personally, I think it's a lot more healthy than going around dating everyone you can get your hands on simply because it's "the thing to do." Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad about that. And finding support in friends and family is awesome. 8-)
Stay strong. Things will get better. *hugz*
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[identity profile] placetohide.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 03:38 am (UTC)
Don't let them get to you by trying to apply their BS standards to your life. You're your own person, and you can live your life YOUR way-- their way doesn't necessarily make it the right way. >(
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[identity profile] grayblob32.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 04:04 am (UTC)
Wow...what a completely rude thing to say to someone. Ugh...I hate people like that who think that having a boyfriend/girlfriend means that you have a life. I mean, I see a lot of people who have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and their life just completely revolves around that one person. To me, that is extremely sad because then you're not your own person anymore. So stupid. We're a lot alike though. Go stereotypical Asians! We're so awesome. XD
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[identity profile] minarri.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 04:54 am (UTC)
People are so close-minded sometimes.

I think I understand at least some of what you're feeling. I've always been rather awkward socially, and a bit of a nerd. I remember being made fun of rather frequently throughout middle school.

It may be difficult but if you can, try to step back from the immediate situation: if you objectively look at them, more often than not others' small-minded convictions are so wrong that you almost have to laugh. No credibility whatsoever. It's taken me years to get to the point where I'm not utterly destroyed by others' negative opinions of me, but I've come to the realization that these sorts of people aren't worth my time.

Someone (don't remember who, oops) said "the ones who care don't matter, and the ones who matter don't care." You'll find someone who sees you for you someday. Don't settle for people sweeping you off into a stereotype. I know it sounds dorky, but everyone is unique.

Ganbatte ne!

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[identity profile] sweethikari.livejournal.com on November 2nd, 2005 03:22 pm (UTC)
Dude, man, what the hell? You're not plain, or stereotypical, or anything whoever the hell said to you >O

You make time to study because you want to succeed, and there's nothing wrong with that. Not having a boyfriend doesn't mean Armagedden will be rearing around, so they can shut their mouths about that. You are not condemned, and you DO have social skills. You are kind and easy to talk to, and that goes a long way in the world, so don't let people talk to you like this. You're a unique individual, and their way can send them to hell in cardboard boxes.

They want a stereotypical Asian? I'll SHOW them stereotypical Asian! ::starts beating them with martial art moves::
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(Anonymous) on November 5th, 2005 06:32 am (UTC)
"They say they are changing someone for the better, but is really better? Is better used by their standards or by a universal standard? Or are they really changing the person so that their life will resemble theirs in a certain way? And really, if I can already approach someone, does it mean that I somehow forget how to do it in the future?"

It's your thesis!!! XD sorry, AP English took over my brain for a sec there.

Anyway, Nancy is Nancy, and many people love Nancy (including Kabe). Everyone here has put it very nicely!! :-D













... Besides, don't worry, we're going to have hot boyfriends in college. XD Knock on wood!
[identity profile] costa-del-sol.livejournal.com on November 5th, 2005 06:33 am (UTC)
ARGH that was meeeeee!!!!! ;_: